ORGASMS

An orgasm is a feeling of intense sexual pleasure that happens during sexual activity. It’s sometimes called “coming” or “climaxing”. Both men and women have orgasms.

* When you have an orgasm, your heart beats faster and your breathing gets quicker and heavier.

* In women, an intense, pleasurable release of sexual tension is accompanied by contractions of the pelvic muscles. A woman may be able to experience more than one orgasm shortly after the first, if she continues to be stimulated. Rarely, some women may ejaculate, that is, clear fluid spurts from glands close to the urethra during intense sexual excitement or during orgasm. The glands are called the skene’s glands.

* In men, muscle contractions cause semen containing sperm to spurt out of the penis (ejaculation). After this, a man cannot have another orgasm for a while. This recovery phase, in which the penis and testicles shrink back to their normal size, can last from a few minutes to a few hours.

Unlike men, women have different types of orgasms and there’s no one-size fits all.

* G-Spot Orgasms

Almost everyone has heard of the mythical G-spot, and finding it can be difficult. The easiest way to locate the G-spot is too insert two fingers into the vagina and feel towards the top, front vaginal wall. The slightly raised and spongy nub of tissue is that sensitive spot. For an intense orgasm, insert two fingers pointing toward the top of the vagina in a hook position. By applying a little pressure and setting a rhythm, many women are able to orgasm several times. While massaging a woman’s G-spot will generally give her a vaginal orgasm, not all women are aroused by having this sensitive place sexually manipulated, some women feel bruised if you stimulate it too much

* A-Spot Orgasms

A large number of couples have never heard of stimulating the A-spot on a woman, but it can be a major source of pleasure. This hard-to-find erogenous zone is located inside the vagina, closer to the cervix. While it is almost impossible to stimulate this spot with your fingers, it can be stimulated by a man’s penis. There are two sexual positions that work best for this: missionary and the cowgirl or woman on top. In the missionary position, you might want to place a few pillows under her back to give you a better angle for penetration. If she prefers to be on top, have her lean back slightly so the penis can thrust deeper inside the vagina to reach past the G-spot. One of the main reasons why it is easier for a woman to have multiple orgasms with her A-spot is that it does not become overly sensitive like the clitoris can. Many women can have two or more orgasms via deeper penetration and A-spot massage.

* Deep Spot Orgasms

The deep spot is past both of the G and A-spots and is located near the cervix cervix. While it may be extremely difficult to reach the spot without causing some discomfort, it can also deliver the most intense and powerful orgasms. Generally penile penetration or a vibrator is

used to stimulate the deep spot, but you can also use two fingers the same way you would when massaging the other orgasmic spots in a woman’s body.

All women experience orgasms differently, and enjoy different forms of sexual stimulation. Before you try to give a partner multiple climaxes, it is important that you know if she will enjoy all of the different erogenous zones being stimulated. Open and honest communication will go a long way toward a more orgasmic experience. Enjoying each other sexually is part of being in a healthy and happy relationship, and giving her multiple climaxes is one way to keep both of you sexually satisfied.

How to Have that Orgasm-Women

One of the secrets to achieving orgasms in general, let alone a number of them in one session, is your comfort. Make sure your immediate surroundings are optimal for orgasms – and if that means simply tidying up, then by all means do it. Once everything’s in place, take your time to tease yourself to the point that you’ve GOT TO have sex. Build that intensity, getting right to the point of climax and then stop. Do this once or twice to heighten the intensity while preparing your body for multiple pleasures.

Now that you’re thinking about one or more orgasms – stop thinking about it! Avoid going into your lovemaking session with a goal-oriented mindset; forget about your big-O and just focus on what feels good – more often than not, the rest will follow.

A friction position may help you have an orgasm during intercourse. Get on top, for example, so the top of your clitoris is rubbing directly on your partner’s pubic bone. Or lay on your back with a pillow underneath your butt.

You know how you take your pleasure, and whether G-Spot stimulation or clitoral massage is what gets you off, go with what you know. After your first orgasm is achieved though, switch up the method, but not the focus area. For instance, if you just climaxed via clitoral stimulation continue that kind of massage, but change sexual positions or the massage stroke and pressure you just climaxed with. As with everything sex related, however, communication is key for this tip.

“Men really want direction,” Let your partner know when he’s on the right track, either by telling him what feels great or by moaning.

“The longer the arousal builds up, the bigger the explosion,” Get yourself close to orgasm, then slow to a simmer. Repeat that a few times before you climax.

If it takes you longer than your partner to warm up, get a head start by e-mailing or texting each other sexy messages (warning: don’t get too graphic—e-mail is not necessarily private).

In a recent French study of 500-plus women, more than 70% said work stress reduced their libido and sex drive. A low libido, obviously, lowers chances of orgasm. So ditch life’s distractions at your bedroom door.

Sex Positions and Tips That Can Help Women Achieve Orgasms

This position enables the penis to reach the G-spot, the part of the clitoris that extends into the vaginal wall. Lie on your back, beneath your partner, and tilt your pelvis upward. It helps to put one or more pillows beneath your buttocks, or have your partner raise up your buttocks with his hands.

This allows the woman to adjust the position of her pelvis so she can better control the friction of the penis as it rubs against her clitoris. This position also allows deep thrusting into the vagina, which can stimulate the cervix and trigger an orgasm. The technique can be carried out with your partner lying down on his back or sitting.

During intercourse, many women flex their pelvic floor muscles to give both partners greater pleasure. The stronger the muscles, the better you can contract your vagina and create greater friction against your partner’s penis, leading to more clitoral stimulation. Try squeezing down throughout intercourse.

This can create friction from the penis and lead to a clitoral orgasm. When your partner inserts his penis into your vagina, squeeze your legs closed and have him place his legs outside yours. Your partner can then squeeze your legs further closed with his thighs. It may help if he can shift his pelvis forward to cause pressure and friction on your clitoris.